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Focus On Marriage Not Divorce


Mark 10:1-12

Today, Jesus is going to talk to us as disciples about marriage.

Unfortunately, in many instances, the church has only become a mirror in which we reflect the values of the world…and that is why we need to talk about this subject.

And yet, we need to talk about marriage with faithfulness…faithfulness in the sense that it is our responsibility as God’s people to instruct and show the world what God intends in marriage.

Marriage is not at all what it once was and in most cases it is not at all what God wants it to be.

Sad isn’t it.

But Christ doesn’t want us as disciples to see marriage the same way people do.

Now we have got to understand the context before we can understand what Jesus has to say. Look at how this event came to be. Look at vs. 2:

In verse 2 Jesus was teaching the crowds and some “Pharisees came up to Him and tested Him, by asking, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?

In fact, where it says that they “began to question Him whether it was lawful for a man to divorce his wife.”

 Now, look at Jesus’ response to their question of “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?”

Look at verse 3:

And He answered and said, “What did Moses command you?” And they said, “Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send her away.”

They already knew.

But now look at what Jesus says in verse 5.

But Jesus said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart he wrote you this commandment.”

Jesus gets right to the point.

And isn’t this true today?

And let me tell you, we need to be careful about hardening our hearts because it tends to grow.

How many marriages are ending today because someone began by hardening themselves to some seemingly little insignificant thing years ago?

Now watch what Jesus does.

They said, “Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce.”

Let’s read it starting in verse 6:

“But from the beginning of creation, {God} made them male and female. “For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and the two shall become one flesh; consequently they are no longer two, but one flesh. “What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”

These Pharisees came and asked Jesus, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?”

And look at God’s plan…look at what Christ says again

He says, “A man shall leave his father and mother.”

When a man or woman gets married the relationship with their parents is no longer primary.

Unfortunately far too many don’t do this.

God intends for your relationship with your mate to be the ultimate human relationship and He wants you to do what ever it takes to make that relationship as strong…and harmonious…and pleasing to each other as it can be.

The second principle that Jesus speaks of here is that of permanence. He says: “and the two shall become one flesh.”

The idea today that has even affected the church is that divorce is just a  “dissolution of the marriage

The point is, your marriage is meant to be as permanent.

So, Jesus speaks of severance…and permanence…and then He speaks of reverence.

We need to see marriage as involving 3.

Let’s read verses 10-12:

And in the house the disciples {began} questioning Him about this again. And He said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her; and if she herself divorces her husband and marries another man, she is committing adultery.”

Our culture is always looking for something shinier and newer to replace what has gotten old
whether it is a refrigerator or a car or even a spouse.

If you throw your mate away just because you are ready for something newer and shinier, Jesus says you are guilty of committing adultery.

These Pharisees come to trap Jesus in a debate over divorce.

That is the way to make a marriage work…focus on it and take care of it…and leave divorce completely out of the picture.

Divorce is a horrible thing…it destroys lives.

      ‘And now why do you delay? Arise, and be baptized, and wash away your sins, calling on His name.’